Chat With Me

After what seems like eleventy bazillion years, NiteFlirt has FINALLY released a new feature - Chat. I can't tell you how delighted I am to finally be able to offer this to My subs and other friends. I know there are times when you wish you could talk with Me but you're in a location that doesn't offer enough privacy to place a phone call. NiteFlirt has just solved that problem. Now you can use the Chat feature to connect with Me instead.

It also allows us to stay connected between calls. Even if you don't have time for a full-length call, you can still shoot Me a message to say hello. Or, if I'm not taking calls, you can use the Chat feature to message Me and ask when I'll be available. Best of all, the Chat feature gives Me the ability to increase the time I'm available, especially during the day. Since I can use My cell phone to reply to chat messages when I'm out and about, you'll get a faster response than sending email.

I'm so excited! I can't wait to connect with you using this amazing new feature. Have you signed up for Chat yet? If not, what are you waiting for? Go register right now!

To initiate a chat with Me, just click on My chat card, found here: Chat With Me

Can't wait to hear from you!

Pardon The Mess

A couple of days ago I decided to overhaul the look of My blog. The previous template was pretty, but it was also old enough that it didn't come with social media integration. Although I was able to get around that by adding widgets to the sidebar, they looked clunky. The menu was also a bit messy and hard to read.

I've tried Wordpress in the past and it has some nice features, but I really don't like the back-end UI. Also, WP is even more prickly about blogs with "adult" content than Google, which is bad enough as it is. Maybe one of these days I'll decide it's worthwhile to shell out for a full website including a Wordpress-based blog, but today is not that day.

To be honest, I shouldn't have to spend anything. Paypigs should be doing that. Make yourself useful and send a tribute. Better yet, adopt My internet bill. We both know your existence is meaningless unless you're working to please your Goddess and make Her life easier. So get to it!

Anyway, I decided it would be easiest to just update the template for this blog. (Okay, you can stop laughing now.)

I set up this blog years ago. YEARS. I forgot how much of a pain in the ass it is unless I want to use the default settings for everything. As if that weren't enough, I'm also working on creating My own heading banner because I don't like any of the pre-made banners I've found. Photoshop, ftw!

So now I get to spend the next eleventy billion hours elbow-deep in code and pixel art. Excuse Me while I go find a container for My joy. #firstworldproblems

I deserve gifts to ease My burden. Send Me something.

Decisions, Decisions

I've been toying with the idea of creating an online sissy training program for those who either haven't found a compatible Domme or who aren't able to serve a Domme full time. I can think of several things to include, including tasks, written assignments, and a monthly "sissy box" - sort of like a Loot Crate, but with items I've personally selected.

To be honest, I've contemplated doing this on and off for years but I haven't taken steps to make it happen. On the one hand, I haven't spent much time researching what other programs are out there or what they entail. I don't want to be another drop in an already over-saturated niche.

On the other hand, while I'm sure there are some others, I'd be putting My own personal spin on it. I'm one of the most creative people I know and what little research I've done on this leads Me to believe I would be able to offer a product that far exceeds what is already available in terms of quality.

I don't want to go through a lot of effort for little to no ROI. At the same time, I really, REALLY enjoy gender play so I'd probably still have fun doing it. I go back and forth on this constantly and I still can't seem to make up My mind.

Spoil your Goddess This Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is fast approaching. Chocolate and flowers are passe. If you've been wracking your puny little brain to come up with the perfect gift for Me - and you should be - fret no more. I've made it so easy even a pathetic loser like you can manage.

Here's a link to My special Valentine's Day Wish List. I expect you to pay for express shipping to guarantee I have all of My gifts on time.

My Valentine's Day Wish List

If all of the items on that list sell out, you can still send a gift from one of My other lists. I also accept Amazon gift cards via email.

Cuckolds, I expect you to pay for My Valentine's Day date night activities. Send Me cold, hard cash via NiteFlirt by clicking on any of the buttons on My tribute page. If you please Me, I might deign to post a photo or two from My date and allow you to live vicariously.

Get to clicking, minions. It's your sacred duty to spoil your Goddess, so hop to it. Chop, chop!

Blogging Boredom = Live Tweeting

I haven't felt like blogging lately. I've been bored with it and just haven't been able to come up with a topic I felt warranted a full blog post. Instead, I've taken to live tweeting during some of My favorite television shows. Wine may or may not be involved in this endeavor.

If you aren't following Me on Twitter, DO IT. I'm @KirielEmber or you can use the follow button on My sidebar. I've discovered live tweeting is helping to overcome My blogging boredom and it takes less effort to think up a funny or snarky one-liner every few minutes than to sit down and focus on crafting a blog post.

Twitter is also a good way to keep up with what I'm doing on a day-to-day basis. So head over to Twitter and follow Me.

Wish List Wednesday

Why should I bother spending My money on a Powerball ticket when I have thirsty little piggies like you to buy Me things? (Not that I'd spend My money, when I could spend yours, of course.)

Since I've decided to take up yoga this year, I need clothes that will allow Me to bend and stretch while still looking like the Goddess I am. It's your job to make My life more comfortable. I've added these pretty yoga pants to My clothing wishlist on Amazon. There's a link to it as well as all My other wishlists on My gift page. I also accept Amazon gift cards and cash tributes, so there's no excuse for failure.

Clicky clicky, minions.

Not The Domme You're Looking For

Too many men have preconceived ideas about what a dominant woman is or should be. Usually, they infest My messages on various social media sites, sniveling for My attention without ever sparing a thought for what I want or how they can serve Me. I am not here for your entertainment. I am not here to cater to your fetishes. Get those silly notions out of your head.

• If you want an Amazon who is all "She-Hulk smash puny men, RAWR!" - I am not the Domme you're looking for.
• If you expect a stone bitch who constantly tells you how weak and pathetic you are - I am not the Domme you're looking for.
• If you're looking for an aloof and distant goddess to worship while she gazes at you from on high with nothing but disdain for your worthless existence - I am not the Domme you're looking for.
• If you need a gum-popping sorority brat to give you the finger and tell you what a loser you are so you can relive your high school inadequacies - I am not the Domme you're looking for.
• If you desire a high-maintenance snob who spends more time on her appearance than it takes for George R. R. Martin to finish writing a book - I am not the Domme you're looking for.

Make no mistake - there will be moments when I embody each of those archetypes, but don't think for a minute you can pigeon-hole Me or safely relegate Me to a category that makes you comfortable. I am so much more complex than anything you could conceive of in your porn-fueled fantasies.

If you want to serve Me, you need to think about how to please Me, not your assumptions and expectations of Me.

I'm Back, Bitches!

My last post was months ago. Not by My choice either. Several months ago, I was involved in a car accident because some dumb cunt couldn't be bothered to hang up her fucking cell phone and drive on the damn highway. She clipped My friend's car and we hit the median retaining wall. My friend is a kick-ass driver, so we didn't die. In fact, no one was seriously injured, although his poor car was totaled.

SEAT BELTS SAVE LIVES. Buckle up, people.

However, I did get whiplash and I've been dealing with the fallout ever since. In a nutshell, it involved taking steroids and a lot of really good painkillers. Most of the time, I was too loopy to write a coherent post. Even when I wasn't, sitting at the computer for that long was impossible.

I'm feeling much better now. I don't need the heavy-duty pain meds or steroids anymore. My doc wants to put me on a theraputic exercise routine and I guess that's a good thing because one of the side effects of the steroids is weight gain. Yuck!

Another friend suggested I try yoga to help with flexibility. My doc says it's okay, so I guess I'll give that a go, too. The important thing here is that I am back with a vengeance. I have a lot of plans and I intend to kick ass in 2016. So assume the position and prepare for your wallet to get royally fucked.

30 Days of Kink - Day 30

Whatever BDSM/kink related thing you want to write about.

Nah. This meme was pretty thorough and I can't think of anything else to say. But what I will do is open the door to My readers. Is there anything you'd like to know about Me that hasn't already been covered either by this meme, My About Me page or My FAQ? Leave your question in the comments.

30 Days of Kink - Day 29

Do you have a BDSM title (e.g. mistress, princess, goddess, ma’am, etc.)? What is your opinion of the use of titles in general?

I prefer to be addressed as "Miss K" but I also accept "Goddess" or "Princess." I only accept "Mistress" from slaves who wear My collar.

As far as the use of titles in general is concerned, I have no opinion. If people want to use them, great. If not, that's cool too. What titles individual people choose to use is none of My business.

30 Days of Kink - Day 28

How do you dress for kink/BDSM play? What significance does your attire have to you?

I dress however I want. I'm particularly fond of corsets and heels, but I could rock jeans and a t-shirt if I felt like it. I own clothing in styles that run the gamut from romantic Goth to cyberpunk to corporate executive. It depends on My mood and the atmosphere I'm trying to create. The most important factor is whether or not I can move comfortably enough to do what I want to do.

30 Days of Kink - Day 27

Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities? If so, how?

Of course! My geeky tendencies find their way into My kink life in the form of erotic role-play scenarios. These often involve transformation of some type, from sissy training to turning My sub into a rubber doll.

30 Days of Kink - Day 26

What’s your opinion on online BDSM play?

I love it. I'm at a point in My life where I'm far too busy to maintain a real life kink relationship. I have too many responsibilities and goals I'm trying to achieve to devote Myself to a D/s relationship. Online play allows Me to be mobile and still get My kink on.

30 Days of Kink - Day 25

How open are you about your kinks?

I don't go around introducing Myself as dominatrix to people I meet on the street, but I'm not hiding either. Obviously, since I write this blog and engage with people on other social media. If someone asks, I have no issue speaking about Myself, but I see no reason to volunteer information.

30 Days of Kink - Day 24

What qualities do you look for in a partner?

There are so many factors that go into finding a compatible partner that I hardly know where to begin. A few of the most important qualities are (in no particular order):

• Intelligence
• Honesty
• Loyalty
• Generosity/likes to spoil Me
• Being considerate/putting My wants and needs before his own
• A good sense of humor
• Nerdy interests like sci-fi/fantasy 
• Compatible kinks

30 Days of Kink - Day 23

Since you first developed an interest in kink, have your interests/perspectives changed? How so?

Of course they've changed. I've grown as a person, met new and interesting play partners, and been introduced to a much wider variety of activities than when I began My journey into kink at 19. I discovered there's so much more to BDSM than tying up a sub and fucking; there are as many ways to "do BDSM" as there are people. If you can imagine it, there are people somewhere out there doing it and having a hell of a time.

I've discovered I'm much more interested in dominance than I am in topping. I'm not particularly interested in quick "sessions" although there are plenty of people who want to know if I'm available for them. I find sessions boring, hollow, and unsatisfying. Don't get Me wrong; sessions are great for those who enjoy that style of play and I'm not dissing them at all, but they're not for Me. I want to get to know My subs and develop relationships with them. For Me, this is all about the long game.

30 Days of Kink - Day 22

What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy? How does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Kinky relationships are still relationships. There is, literally, nothing different about keeping a kinky relationship healthy versus a vanilla relationship. Honesty, integrity, open communication, etc. are all vital elements of any healthy relationship, kinky or otherwise.

30 Days of Kink - Day 21

Favorite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)

Hands down, it's Training With Miss Abernathy by Christina Abernathy. I found this book back when I was just a baby domme and it has proved invaluable. I can't say enough good things about it.

30 Days of Kink - Day 20

Talk about something within kink/bdsm that you’re curious about/don’t understand.

After 10+ years, I understand kink/bdsm pretty well. There isn't much I don't understand. There will always be people who make no sense to Me, but that's as true of sports fanatics as it is of kinksters.

Likewise, there aren't many kinky activities I'm curious about; rather, I'm curious about people. 

30 Days of Kink - Day 19

Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?

I can't think of any unexpected ways kink has improved My life. My life is awesome and would be awesome with or without kink. Because I'm just that fabulous.